If anything he would be bi, not gay, for I know he likes women. Our group of friends is very hard to explain. We’ve all made out with each other and seen each other naked at some point in time (yeah it sounds kind of fucked up). So sexual orientation is very…fuzzy. It was a serious and intense relationship which is why I feel like my heart is in my stomach all the time.
I did truly think he was gay when I first met him. I guess I should have explained further. We met in a hotel room before a rave in celebration of my birthday last year. So, I pretty much met him on ecstasy, which, obviously changes people and makes them, well, flamboyant. I guess, you could also label him a metrosexual in general. He was raised in southern California and just has tendencies (hand motions, expressions, etc.) that could be viewed as homosexual. He also cares about how he looks, but I guess no more than a lot of guys.
Anyway, I guess I was a little quick to say that. Plus, the “gay” card just gets thrown around so much (at least in my group of friends), so it’s hard to say. And again, the lines of sexual orientation are not clearly defined. Plus, obviously, me telling myself he’s into guys is just an easy way out, mentally. We even talked about it very openly during our relationship. He would never deny it fully, but also said he could never imagine himself with another guy.
So, really, it’s just a cop-out for me and I was too quick to say it here on Fluther. And, I’m sorry @laureth if I in any way demeaned your real, actual situation in any way.