My husband’s sister is friends (on Facebook) with his ex. It aggravates him, only because she’ll want to discuss what is going on with his ex. He says he finds it disrespectful to me. Truly, I don’t care. He gets annoyed because he can’t stand his ex, she cheated on him and used him for money…she dragged out years of postponing starting a family only to announce that she was pregnant with her boyfriend’s baby, shortly after they divorced.
He just tells his sister that it’s a non-subject to him, do not discuss anything they talk about with him. He finds his sister immature, anyway and just counts this as part of her immaturity. big age difference between the two of them.
If it was my sister and m ex – I’d be annoyed, but I don’t think I’d be as upset as you are. It would bother me, but I would assume it was to keep channels of communication open, since he and I had a daughter, together. It certainly wouldn’t make things easy, but I generally don’t get worked up about issues dealing with him, anymore. Only if he has done some serious harm to my daughter.
Can you just let him know that you don’t want him to discuss anything about you, with your ex, and that you don’t want to hear about your ex?