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Are there any personality traits you wish you had but don't?

Asked by essieness (7698points) March 23rd, 2009
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Here’s mine:

I wish I was witty. You know, AstroChuck and Asmonet style. I don’t have it.

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syz's avatar

I wish I was a morning person (is that a personality trait?). I’d love to be able to wake up in the morning and have energy and enthusiasm.

syz (35958points)“Great Answer” (2points)
VS's avatar

Maybe not really a personlity trait, but I do wish I had some kind of (ANY kind of) musical talent.

adreamofautumn's avatar

I wish I could just take things in stride without letting them rile me up.
and @syz I agree with that morning person thing!

essieness's avatar

@syz I do too… As I type this I’m having my first cup of coffee for the day.

AstroChuck's avatar

Yeah. I’d like to be light-hearted. I wish I wasn’t so damn serious all the time.
But whuddya gonna do?

Judi's avatar

Keeping order. I am a little to much of a free spirit and smell the roses a bit to much. I wish I saw more value in laundry and dishes.

jeanna's avatar

I wish I was known as the “nice one”. I’ve never had that quality, apparently.

aprilsimnel's avatar

I wish I weren’t so self-conscious IRL. Or ruminative. Too much thinking and not enough doing – because I’m so self-conscious, hey, whaddya know! :P

janbb's avatar

Courage and more determination. I feel like I’m too fearful of many things and that I give up too easily – or just don’t work hard enough at them.

jeanna's avatar

@AstroChuck I’ve been told that I am way too serious for my own good, oh well!

adreamofautumn's avatar

@jeanna you’ll learn in time that Astrochuck is about as far from “too serious” as you can get. :). He’s a witty-one (as referenced by @essieness in her details of this question!).

jeanna's avatar

@adreamofautumn Ah, gotcha! I’m brand-new to the site, so it’ll be nice learning everyone’s personalities.

essieness's avatar

@jeanna You’ll have a lot of fun getting to know everyone… Welcome!

adreamofautumn's avatar

@jeanna like @essieness you’ll have a lot of fun getting to know everybody. Welcome to the collective! :)

kenmc's avatar

I wish I would have more confidence. Unoriginal, yes but it’s true.

EmpressPixie's avatar

Ease of socialization, please. I can be friendly and chatty online, but in person I’m very… socially awkward. I’d love to have it easier.

jonsblond's avatar

I’m too nice most of the time. I wish I could learn to say no and not feel bad about it and second guess myself.

jeanna's avatar

@boots The thing is, we can have more confidence or be nicer or whatever. At least these are things we can control.

A_Beaverhausen's avatar

yea, i wish i didnt get so nervous. i stutter a lot. lol.

essieness's avatar

@A_Beaverhausen Aw hunnie! I do that some when I get overexcited and start talking really fast.

A_Beaverhausen's avatar

exactly. when im really into something, i get really passionate about it and stuble over my words.

EmpressPixie's avatar

@A_Beaverhausen: I stutter verrry rarely. But my boyfriend (who I am referring to so often today, I’m tempted to go undercover and call him a friend instead) stutters as part of his personal dialect—which is to say, on purpose. I’ve noticed my (non-purposeful) stuttering has gone up since knowing him. Luckily, I can camo it as his kind.

A_Beaverhausen's avatar

its not so bad anymore, after being in musicals in high school, it kinda of eased my stage fright.

A_Beaverhausen's avatar

but when giving speeches i have a tendancy to say ‘um’ a lot

essieness's avatar

@A_Beaverhausen I always lose the word I’m looking for when I’m speaking. I’m a much better writer than speaker.

Hey, maybe I should add that to my list of personality traits I wish I had.

jonsblond's avatar

@A_Beaverhausen
@essieness I’m the same way. Once I was in a heated argument with my husband and I got so nervous and upset (I hate confrontation) that I just came up with a terrible reply. I yelled “you fuckin fucker fucker fuck”. It became a new saying at his work the following day. sorry for so many f-bombs

A_Beaverhausen's avatar

@jonsblond ha! i love it. yea, being an only child, i hate confrontation too. i just get really pissed. lol. my boyrfrind puts up with a lot. hehe!

essieness's avatar

@jonsblond I also hate confrontation for that very reason! My ex husband and I once got into it over something he wanted to buy (that something was going to require a loan) and I just couldn’t express to him in words why I wasn’t on board with the idea. I actually had to write him a letter and number off each reason so I could get my point across. He laughed as he read it, but ultimately, I won! It’s so frustrating though to become frozen like that in an argument.

Mr_M's avatar

Actually, no. I like the package of traits I have.

_Liz's avatar

I’m satisfied with the ones I have

Ender's avatar

A little modesty wouldn’t hurt.

tinyfaery's avatar

Follow through. I give up to easily.

3or4monsters's avatar

self discipline.

adreamofautumn's avatar

@Ender I have that issue too haha.

marinelife's avatar

I wish I was a little more open and trusting.

Ender's avatar

@adreamofautumn
It happens to the best of us.

AstroChuck's avatar

@ender- Modesty is overrated. Look at me. My modesty is second to none. I’d trade it all to be less important. That way I could fit in more.

augustlan's avatar

Like @3or4monsters, self-discipline sums it up nicely. I have zero motivation most of the time, and it affects everything in my life! If I only had some self-discipline, maybe my house would be clean, my taxes done, and that book written. Sigh.

sdeutsch's avatar

I wish I was better at making small talk. I would love to be one of those people who can engage anyone in conversation, but I’m just too shy – unless I know someone really well, I can never think of anything to say. I’m a little bit in awe of those socially-adept people…

Bluefreedom's avatar

My idiosyncracies fit me well so I really don’t have much to add to that. If I had to pick something, I guess I’d like to feel more comfortable meeting new people and engaging in conversations with them right from the start. In essence, being a little less shy I suppose.

cak's avatar

I can be a tad controlling, at times. I would love to just let that go, but then I wouldn’t be in control! See the problem?

cak (15863points)“Great Answer” (2points)
JellyB's avatar

Many! I wish i were funny, and more talkative, and less shy, and more confident, and not so lazy, and more patient and tolerant, and more caring towards those i don’t know.

Judi's avatar

@cak; That’s funny because you think your to controlling and I feel like I lack control. Put us together and we would probably have the perfect person!

cak's avatar

@Judi now we need to resolve the east coast/ west coast issue and we’ll have it made!

cak (15863points)“Great Answer” (0points)
Dutchess12's avatar

@JellyB you wish you were funny and more talkative and less shy? OH PULEASE!!!

Dutchess12's avatar

@cak Well….somebody has to be in control, and it might as well be us, right!? Or….my Mom.

JellyB's avatar

@DutchCat LOL! ‘Tis true! If we ever meet, you’ll be surprised! ;P

cak's avatar

@DutchCat – oh…..I’m contemplating sharing control. I’m sure my husband would get a kick out of the idea. or he’ll faint. He knows what a control freak I truly am!

cak (15863points)“Great Answer” (0points)
Dutchess12's avatar

cak…LOL!! But, we know the men can’t REALLY handle it!! So we must maintain it, right?!

cak's avatar

@DutchCatNo, they can’t, but every now and then, we need to let them pretend that they can. ;~)

cak (15863points)“Great Answer” (0points)
jo_with_no_space's avatar

I wish I had true patience and more tact.

OpryLeigh's avatar

I wish I wasn’t quite so neurotic, paranoid, scared, impatient, insecure ( my list could go on!)

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

Patience!I’m good with kids,not so with adults.

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