It’s difficult. Going out for over two years, she makes me happy, I love to see her smile, but it takes virtually nothing to anger her and then she’s mad at me for a week or so at a time. This past weekend, she punched me on the arm for something she didn’t understand (An ice cream lady rudely cut my g/f off while she was asking for her order by holding out her hand and saying “just the ticket please”. I looked at the ice cream lady and said (out loud) “Just give her the ticket, she’s not interested in actually helping you.” My girlfriend turned and punched me and said “I don’t wanna feel stupid twice.”)

After that, she was real snippy. If I tried to draw her interest towards anything at all, she didn’t care. Eventually she turned and walked away from me… choosing to walk home instead of allowing me to drive her there.

I spent about 3 hours on the phone with her just now, and she is 100% convinced it is all my own fault… and that “I forced her to walk home”. While I was still there, I called her to tell her where I was… she didn’t come. I called to tell her I was by the car, she just said “If you want to leave then just leave.” I called her mom and left a voicemail, that she pretty much sent me home and she needs someone to pick her up… I even called Dad because I didn’t really know how to handle the situation.

Anyway, even though I had explained everything, it wasn’t good enough… she wanted me to apologize… for what? For leaving her there. “If you would have given me some time I would have calmed down and come back”... to which I said “Are you still mad now?”

“Yes!”

“Well, then how could you expect me to wait in the parking lot for over 24 hours before you decided to come get in the car?”

It’s like arguing in circles… and just now, well, I very calmly reminded her “We’ve had senseless fights like this before and we’ve always forgiven each other. Are you sure this isn’t something you just wanna put to rest? And if not, 10 minutes from now, are you going to regret it?”

Her way of dodging responsibility is by saying “You do whatever you want… I can’t stop you.”

I told her 60 seconds to think nice and clearly about what you want. She just continued to smart off… so I hung up on her.

Part of me says “It’s been a long time coming”... but then of course, the part of me that believes love conquers most everything says “to give her some more time”. I don’t know… it seems like warning a person, pleading with a person, trying to reason with someone and finally begging them to come to their senses in a single conversation is pretty much everything I could do… maybe it’s time?

Topics: relationships, depression, drama, grief, girlfriends, break-ups