@bythebay Very very well said, and agreed entirely.
@Jo_with_no_space It is, perhaps, but this assumption comes up – usually in gossiping, often about celebrities – enough to irk me, and since it was brought to mind & potentially an interesting topic, decided to ask. Actually, maybe the reason i didn’t post questions on these strains so much on wis.dm was for fear of getting unpleasantly backwards responses, and no one else to argue against them. I gained a ton of extra, unexpected respect for this community when looking at the responses to that thread about rape-victim blaming – was scared to open it, in all honesty. It’s one thing seeing that elsewhere, but on an online hangout where you’re accustomed to feeling comfortable, it’s really not desirable for me to deal with such things more than necessary.