alright, now i think i’ve figured it out for myself (thanks to everyone’s ideas of course!) if your Bud or Significant Other is trailing behind you on a crowded bus looking for a seat.. the first person (being you) who sees an open seat has an option to take that advantage or else to considerately offer it to someone else in need.. for example, your Bud or SO.
Same deal with entering a building, the person holding the door for the other is merely offering the advantage of not having to bother with those basic mechanics. It’s an act of humility, really. For a slight and near-insignificant second, you’re becoming a worker-slave to the other person.
So, it’s actually a gesture of taking the submissive role in a sense. It’s the giving of advantage to another person. There’s nothing weird about it. It’s like making a joke even. Sometimes you can place a joke well and sometimes making that same joke would be awkward or not well received. Also, like offering someone head. There’s a right time and a wrong time for that most kind offer, lol.
So, pick good times when they arise and avoid them when they would be awkward. That’s my conclusion on the matter.