Then I “would rather”/prefer the former.
“Extreme romantic feelings” from a neurological stand-point mimic the effects of addictive drugs, dopamine and serotonin levels fluctuate greatly which thus leads to illogical behavior, however altruistic these behaviors might be.
As a person who sees the utility of power and the relative stability in can bring to life, I don’t find much comfort in engaging in activities that cloud my logic and make me act unlike “myself”.
Being on the other end of this equation more suits my personality: as I love pleasure. I love to share pleasures and give pleasures ( not necessarily “love” but sweet memories and notable moments). Seeing my suitors jump thru hoops and the like is not only personally flattering but it also gives me impetus to return the affection and theatrics and thus embark on a long journey of good times.
Once the good times come to an end (IF they ever do), you move on with your sweet moments and notable memories.