I don’t know how happy I’d be if I were the planner of “Part 1” and out of nowhere, someone does ANOTHER one a few months later. What you could do is go to the first one and tell your group “We have to do this again soon! How about we go to… in a few months? Anyone interested?” and see.

I think that your reunion itinerary is way lame. Bar hopping? That’s what teens do for frosh! I also sure wouldn’t want to hang around with high school friends’ families at bowling.

I haven’t been presented with a class reunion opportunity yet, but when it does happen I would hope it’s a one day event, not a sprawling weekend of lame-ass activities!

@Mr_M : That’s sort of what I had in mind…Asking the planner if she’d be interested in doing something else the next year, or even in the fall. I did facebook the planner and ask to be on the 20 year reunion committee. Maybe she’ll get the hint. But, I wasn’t going to like “stick it to her.”

My husband and I planned our wedding in 2.5 months- I had morning sickness all day, and he was finishing his masters degree and working 40 hrs a week. I’m a fabulous planner and very creative, not to toot my own horn. It just frustrates me that I have all these ideas stirring now, and that won’t change the fact that the main event is bar hopping. I mean, we did graduate in a super hick town, but there are things to do. I’m especially surprised because the planner used to be Ms. School Spirit.

Ugh! It’s just so lame!

If the planner made the decisions herself, then don’t go. But I would imagine she planned it with others? And you don’t have to do everything all 4 nights nor do you have to “hop”. Go to one bar then leave.

You DID mention “committee”? This probably means a FEW people decided upon this.

Yeah, there was a committee. That means several people thought this was a good idea. I won’t go to everything… it’s just a shame for people like me who are coming from out of town for this. It’s not really worth it to go bowling and bar hopping. Like @dynamicduo said, I’m not 21 anymore, and barhopping isn’t appealing unless it’s St. Paddy’s day or something. And it’s not like they rented out the whole bowling alley… I don’t know how they expect even half of the graduating class and our families to fit in a bowling alley and have fun.

I’m definitely not doing all of it. I still may not go at all. Another funny part is that it says to RSVP, but even if you don’t, you’re still encouraged to come. As if the events themselves weren’t clearly unorganized enough, that nails the coffin shut. I guess if I want a name tag, I better RSVP!

The reunions at my school were at the SCHOOL! With alumnis from OTHER years. I never went. I didn’t like the kids then so why would I want to see them again?

@Mr_M : Hahahaha.. that’s another reason I don’t really want to do it. I talk to everyone I care to already.

I have only made it to two reunions out of several – the last one held was the 40th – but the 20th was wonderful.
Held on a Sunday afternoon at the school. You arrived and lined up to enter the cafeteria (just like high school) and got in line (just like high school) to get your packet with an ID and a copy of your picture from the yearbook.

I graduated high school in June 1967, the same month that Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band was issued and that album !!!was blaring all over the campus as you approached the cafeteria.

The facilities were mostly open and you could wander around the labs or the auditorium or classrooms or the library.

Pretty strange that they actually trusted alumni not to steal anything. It was a lot of fun.

I sat and ate with some of the people I sat and ate with 20 years prior. I didn’t talk to the ones I didn’t talk to 20 years prior.

It was a nice afternoon.

The thing to remember is that the only thing you have in common with every other attendee is that you went to high school together, nothing else. So the memory fades away pretty fast.

SRM

I got my invite to my 10 yr reunion a couple of months ago… more like they told us the date… no itinerary yet… no venue either.
I think i’d have fun at yours though… But i don’t think i could get away with a 3 day reunion.

I can’t imagine having fun ten or forty years later with people I didn’t have fun with in the first place.

@Jeruba
That was evident at my reunion. I never hung out with the A-group (so to speak) and I did not talk to many of them, but there was a lot of 5 minute camaraderie, brief conversations, pictures of the kids, how well you were doing ( nobody was doing poorly). But I DID see a number of people that I had had no contact with in 20 years and made a few connections and a few lunch dates and got some names for future networking that might have come in handy if I ever needed it.

Something I found odd was that some people came up to me and hugged me and seemed really happy to see me and I couldn’t understand why because I did not have all that close a relationship with any of them. But in retrospect, some of if became evident to me. I was in a graduating class of almost 900, at a school that was full of geeky kids who spent a lot of time on the periphery of things as I did. But I did play one varsity sport and that had me circulating through different groups over the years. Maybe they were simply happy to see someone they knew. I don’t know.

But even odder is that one of those kids who thought seeing me that day was a big deal ended up as an assistant Attorney General under Janet Reno for several years, and that, to me, is a really big deal.

SRM

Yeah, I’m not looking forward to having to fake being happy to see some people. It’s not that I hate them, but I’m just indifferent and don’t know if I can pull off extreme interest in some of them. I’m not very good at pretending.

@ubersiren… When I went to that reunion in 1987, one of the lawyers where I was working had been my classmate. He had an absolutely miserable time in high school and wanted nothing to do with the place and particularly the 20th reunion. Despite my attempts at persuasion, he did not go, It was probably the right decision for him.
The first day at work after the reunion he was interested to see if a couple of women attended and if so, what did they look like at 37….........

In all seriousness, why put yourself into an uncomfortable situation? This is not a family wedding or Bar Mitzvah where you HAVE to attend despite your unease.

If you don’t want to go, then don’t go.

And just to add somjething, if there were an occasion like a Jr. High School reunion, I wouldn’t be within 15 miles of it.

SRM

@ubersiren, why go, then?

@Jeruba: Because there are some people I do want to see. Not everyone falls into these categories. Most of the people I want to see are close friends anyway, but some not.