@SuperMouse sorry but i think you misunderstood my response in terms of “impaired”.
you state you have chosen to abstain until you get married. by impaired, i meant unable to have sex which does not seem to be your situation.
in any case, i did not mean that in every case where sexual impairment prevents consummation of an otherwise intimate, passionate and loving relationship, an impaired partner SHOULD grant the other leave to seek sexual solace.
i simply really only meant to state that intimate, passionate and loving relationships that are non-familial are USUALLY (not ALWAYS) incomplete without sex – i.e., are not consummated absent a sexual component. There may be reasons why such a non-familial relationship is not consummated. But, i think absent whatever those reasons may be, the relationship would normaly be consummated.
I meant no offense to anyone either above or in my prior response. I’m a newbie here and trying to figure out the norms and morals of this site.