My son lives with my ex in Germany. I haven’t seen him in a year and a half. The plan was to have him come here to Kentucky this summer but he says that he is afraid of flying (no doubt with the urging of my ex who is MORTIFIED of flying). I could go to Germany this summer to visit him even though I don’t have the money available to finance a flight, hotel, car, food or fun stuff to do with him ( I’ll find it somewhere) or I could stand my ground and take it as it comes. I’m afraid of setting a precedent of jumping when my ex says jump and having to fly to Germany every time I want to see him, there are so many things here in the States that I want to do with him. The problem is that my son is stuck in the middle and ultimately, he’s the one that gets hurt.