If it’s my own, weird standards of what morality is… definitely. At the least, i need to respect someone i’m attracted to more than physically (which is a requirement for serious attraction, for some unknown reason)... but looking up to someone, in a sense (so long as it’s not a pedestal deal), to ocasionally be inspired to be a better person – attractive in a way that goes beyond just sexual.
May be some silly quirk, but i seem to need something to contrast good qualities in people against in order to fully appreciate them… for some reason, my head can’t sustain the abstract but visceral knowledge of how uncaring people can be, for instance, in order to find caringness as attractive as it can/should be.
@ru2bz46 Same here! Even mostly physical attractions fizzle if the guy turns out to have lack of respect/sensitivity/kindness to people. And knowing someone’s like that beforehand seems to prevent superficial attractions from even really beginning. May be part of why some people are way more attractive before you know them…
And, sorry to go off like this – but why are people here considering how many people a woman is intimate a major part of her ethics?. It’s one thing, how ethical a potential partner is in their relationship (sexual or otherwise) ... but how the hell does sleeping around or not (with meaningful connections or not, casually or not) determine how good of a person a woman is?