General Question

Nimis's avatar

Do you care what happens to an object once you have sold it?

Asked by Nimis (13255points) April 7th, 2009
17 responses
“Great Question” (3points)

Some possible examples:
SOLD: The house you grew up in.
Or the house your kids grew up in.
FATE: Demolished to make way for a soulless strip mall.
Or a clinic with a hidden pro-life agenda. Whichever one offends you more.

SOLD: Your prized [insert favourite sports team] memorabilia.
FATE: To be destroyed by [insert arch sports team rival] fan for kicks.

SOLD: The painting that you poured your heart and soul into.
FATE: Defaced for their high school art project.

Does the amount of money you sold it for affect your opinion?
What if the object sells for ten times the amount?

Does the person you’re selling it to affect your opinion?
Let’s say an old Nazi officer collects WWII stuff
and wants to buy your Holocaust memorabilia?
The object itself will not be physically damaged in any way.
How would you feel about that?

Observing members: 0
Composing members: 0

Answers

ShauneP82's avatar

Well if you do care what happens to it, perhaps you should not have sold it.

El_Cadejo's avatar

It depends on the object and how much sentimental value it had to me in the first place. In another couple months im going to have to sell Mr Puffer because hes getting to big for my tank. Ill be devastated if he doesnt go to a new caring home.

@ShauneP82 its not always that simple. Sometimes we must part with things even if we dont want to.

KatawaGrey's avatar

I agree with @uberbatman. When my grandmother dies, she’s leaving me her engagement ring. The stone in that ring has been in my family for a very long time, but what if I fell on hard times and had to sell it? I think I would be worried about who got it and, specifically because it is jewelry, I might try and sell it to a diamond specialist or someone equivalent, someone who could really appreciate the stone and might sell it to someone else who would appreciate it. It would be hard, but if I knew about the person who was getting it, I think I could part with it.

ShauneP82's avatar

Again, guys that comes down to a matter of choice. All I am saying is that if it is that important to you find a way to keep it.

You have to make a choice on what more important. Keeping a ring or buy food that sort of thing. I am sure you would be sad that you sold the ring, but glad you got to eat. lol.

Zen's avatar

At first, I was going to just respond “No.” I don’t care what happens to my things once I’ve sold them. Upon reading the details section, well:

SOLD: The house you grew up in. Yes. A little
Or the house your kids grew up in. Yes.
FATE: Demolished to make way for a soulless strip mall. Sucks.
Or a clinic with a hidden pro-life agenda. Sucks a lot. Whichever one offends you more. The latter.

SOLD: Your prized [insert favourite sports team] memorabilia. Nope.
FATE: To be destroyed by [insert arch sports team rival] fan for kicks. Still nope.

SOLD: The painting that you poured your heart and soul into. I couldn’t draw a very good stick man.
FATE: Defaced for their high school art project. Ha ha ha.

Does the amount of money you sold it for affect your opinion? Nope.
What if the object sells for ten times the amount?
Goodey for them.
Does the person you’re selling it to affect your opinion? Nope.
Let’s say an old Nazi officer collects WWII stuff
and wants to buy your Holocaust memorabilia?
The object itself will not be physically damaged in any way.
How would you feel about that? I’d alert the Simon Weisenthal center and help them catch the nazi bastard.

:-)

KalWest's avatar

It’s an object – I don’t care. If I cared – I wouldn’t have sold it.

ShauneP82's avatar

Thank you KalWest. I appreciate the fact that you see this the way I do. It just an object.

Harp's avatar

I once got a commission to build a very ornate harp for someone. When she ordered, I gave her my speech about how I use a construction technique that optimizes the sound, but makes the harp easily damaged by poor humidity management.

6 months later it was finished, the most beautiful I had ever made. When I delivered it, I again described the humidity requirements, and warned her that the harp would tear itself apart if it got too dry.

I few weeks later, I got the call. The harp had been baking in their house with no humidity control at all (in a Chicago winter, that can mean single-digit humidities), and had cracked in several places. I had to spend the next 4 weeks repairing them, but it never looked quite the same. Giving that harp back to them was a very hard thing to do.

I’d like to think I can just let go of things like that without any self-involvement, but apparently not.

suzyq2463's avatar

After my Mom died of cancer, my brother and I had to sell the house. This was the house in which I was raised my whole life. All my childhood memories are associated with that house. The house is so strongly associated with my mom, kindness, family, that I miss it terribly and still consider it my true home. One of the hardest moments in my life was the morning I left the house for the last time. I walked through each room and said goodbye to a lifetime of experiences. I locked the front door, got in the car, and drove away. I’ve never been back. I honestly don’t think I can go back and see the house occupied by another family.

Les's avatar

I don’t necessarily care what happens to things like cars or other objects, but my parents’ house, yes. The neighborhood is getting bad, and one the house sells, I would never, ever go back to see it. It would be too painful to see the house I grew up in and came home for Christmas and summer break turn into a slum house. It makes me tear up just thinking about it.

Les (10005points)“Great Answer” (3points)
El_Cadejo's avatar

This question now hits really close to home for me. My mom just told me her and my step dad are getting a divorce (about time) but this means we are going to have to sell the house we’ve lived in for the past 7 years. I have a lot of memories both good and bad in this house and really dont want to leave it. Someone came today to appraise the house and told my mom that “black doesnt sell” (my room is painted black) so we’re going to have to repaint it soon. It feels like im defiling my room. And really thats what it is, MY room. The thought of anyone else living here bothers me.

Nimis's avatar

@uberbatman That’s terrible. I’m sorry to hear that, Uber. [hugs]
You should take some pictures before you paint it.
I never really thought much of it because I was still living there.
But now I really appreciate the old (seemingly mundane) pictures
of the places I’ve lived—especially my bedrooms.

El_Cadejo's avatar

will do for sure. I still cant seem to come to grips with the fact that this is really happening and theres nothing i can do about it :(

Nimis's avatar

It will be sad while you’re painting it. But maybe it’s also good in a way
because it will feel less like someone is living in your room.

El_Cadejo's avatar

yea i suppose so. oh how itd be nice to have money…. :P

wundayatta's avatar

If I think it’s going to bother me when something isn’t mine, I don’t sell it.

Nimis's avatar

@daloon I’d try to. But Uber’s was a great (but sad) example
of when you don’t always have a choice about selling things.

Answer this question

Login

or

Join

to answer.

Mobile | Desktop


Send Feedback   

`