@tinyfaery – I think both you and @The_Compassionate_Heretic landed on something in regards to gender issues (anger) while raising children. I have a boy and a girl – big age differences, though. When I take my son to things where his friends – mostly boys, are all together, the aggression level is higher than I ever saw with my daughter and her friends. The difference, some of the parents excuse it (boys are wired differently, boys are just naturally more aggressive) and some, like my husband and I, don’t tolerate it, at all. We accept that boys and girls (men and women, too.) get angry. That’s fine, it’s an emotion; however, how it’s handled, matters. We are showing him how to handle anger, because outbursts and aggression, that’s not okay.
Unfortunately, there is still more of an acceptance of men and anger and how it’s handled, versus woman and how they handle anger issues. It’s not okay. I find it very annoying when a man can express their anger in a more aggressive or boisterous manner, than a female. We are told to control ourselves, pull it together. Men, well – they are given space, let it blow over…give them time.
I do think there is less tolerance than there used to be, but it is a very slow change.