@Eponymous: All I know is that the Quaker community in which I spent 14 years…connected to a school…was wonderful. The Quakes didn’t talk about doing good, they did good in a quiet and unobtrusive manner. They were the best role models I could have wanted for my children.
Nixon was one, I think. He did go to Whittier College, which was owned and operated by The Society of Friends.
Do you have any info about your great grandfather and how he reconciled non-violent solutions with being in the military and actually fighting? It is paradoxical.
When I arrived at the Friends School, I came from NYC and had to tone down my dress, make-up and rather flamboyant hair style. The term for the heavy hints was “being eldered.” But I was married to the Headmaster and had high visibility. So off came the contacts and back went the eyeglasses. It was fine, since my contacts were
driving me nuts by then.