If anything, I feel that girls are pressured to have sex more than to stay a virgin. I can honestly say that about half of my friends in high school are on birth control, which they were put on my their parents because they just assumed that they’re having sex. My parents are completely opposite. It has always been, “Don’t do it.” While I’m not necessarily waiting for marriage (as I don’t plan on that for quite a long time…) I want to be sure that it’s the right person. I was in a relationship for almost two years with someone that I loved, but I just wasn’t ready. I guess it’s a personal decision, but I feel like girls and guys even, have so much pressure put on them to have sex. I can’t even count how many times people have asked me whether we did, or just flat out assumed it.. I’ve been called a liar for saying I’m still a virgin… like it’s so ridiculously unbelievable. It kind of bothers me that people look at losing your virginity as something that makes you ‘part of the club’... as cliche as that may sound. I know I’m in the minority, but all the stories about peoples’ sexual experiences, many partners and stuff like that kind of make me feel left out.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that we’ve so accepted that people won’t wait, that we seem to expect them not to. Personally, I admire people who wait, and I do know a few couples who have. For me, at least, I see waiting as a kind of a test to see if that person really wants you, and not just physically.
I know it’s a very personal thing, and I’d be lying if I said that waiting isn’t very difficult, but I think that it’s important.. I don’t think it’s up to the church, society, or other people to decide for you,either. I hate the pressure that I get from my family, friends, the media… My decision is based on what I feel is right for me. I’m not saving it for a guy because chances are that he’s already had sex with other women-Instead, I’m saving it for myself. (Not literally, of course) But I’m saving it for my own reasons…. Not someone elses.
Oh, and @westy81585 you wouldn’t care if she’d slept with 100 men? Personally, I don’t like the idea of guys I date/like having been with a lot of other girls. It makes me feel less special. While I don’t think that I’ve been a virgin when I get married, I want to keep my number as low as possible so that he knows how important he is to me and that he has something that I don’t just freely give away.