Weirdly, I learned all about good financial management, fiscal prudence, budgets,etc from my emotionally withdrawn father. That has held me in good stead as a business woman (and running a marriage as a good business venture) but I, too, now, find finances – on all their fronts – infinitely more inexplicable and mysterious due to the complications and bureaucracy….when I had to pick out a Medicare Drug plan, I ended up needing to get help from a county agency. The woman there could barely figure out the plans and in the past two years, my monthly fee has gone up 250%.
It is never too late to learn a second language; However, I think that our emotional insecurities are hard-wired at an early age. One can understand intellectually but to change one’s emotional response really takes work and only succeeds partially. ironhighway talks about confidence: I believe that that comes from unconditional love from your parents when you are young. You don’t have to be an A student, captain of the football team, or the best in anything…you are simply a beloved child.
A powerful book that explores this is THE DRAMA OF THE GIFTED CHILD; THE SEARCH FOR THE TRUE SELF; Alice Miller