A long time friend and I were going to take our 17 yo daughters to a performance and dinner. She could no longer drive so I always did. The day before she told me her new boyfriend was coming too and he wanted to drive all of us. The next day when we got to her house it was obvious he had been drinking and since they were running late I just made an excuse about taking my own car and went on ahead. In the restaurant she brought up the possibility of a trip with my daughter. We had talked about it and I had agreed to pay but I told her my daughter might have other plans. As it turned out, the way she brought it up, my daughter decided to be stubborn and my friend started to argue. When I got home she was already calling and really blasted me. She went on for over an hour. She couldn’t afford this trip without my daughter coming, I should have warned her ahead of time. I should make my daughter go. It got very circular and finally I started getting angry. When she said I snubbed her boyfriend because I drove myself, I told her I wasn’t going to put my daughter or myself in the car with a drunk and that led to the phone being slammed down,
I expected her to call back when she calmed down but I hadn’t heard from her 3 months later when we had a serious earthquake that put the power out in our neighborhood and shut down public transportation. I called her the second day and asked if they were all right or if they needed anything and her response was just NO. That’s when I felt betrayed.
That was 20 years ago. We live within a mile of each other and I see her in the neighborhood every couple of years. I don’t know if she sees me because her vision is poor. I still wonder what she was so angry with me about but I wouldn’t be rejected again.