I felt this way for most of my life because of abuse that started when I was very young. Through a lot of hard work and life experience, I’ve learned that I’m as good as anybody else, and just as worthy of love and happiness.
But I still have times, such as when I’m in a relationship and things seem almost ‘too good’ or after a relationship falls apart, and I start telling myself those negative things.
To get through those times, I use my logic, because I know those negative things aren’t true. I also take time to remind myself of times when I felt more confident and loveable, and I listen to music that helps me and write in my journal.
It also helps to spend time with those who do accept me as I am: my oldest friends, and my pets.
Getting outdoors and walking, listening to the birds and the leaves rustling in the breeze, or the ocean waves, or lake or streams rippling… being in nature seems to help me put things in perspective.
Hang in there!