@lazydaisy
I know that about you. So how do you think it happens?
I’m intrigued with @sap82 premise that we “make” enemies, as if it is our choice… like making cookies. This intrigues me to no end because I cannot recall a time that I’ve ever once had an enemy.
I’ve been attacked by gangs, and back stabbed by women and friends. I am also guilty of robbery and assault on others. Most of those situations were eventually resolved because I ultimately set upon myself to make peace with those involved, even if it cost me money or meant going to jail. The situations that weren’t resolved are due to me not being able to find or contact the person.
I don’t feel myself to be the enemy any longer, but just because I moved past those who abused me doesn’t necessarily mean that we are now friends. It certainly doesn’t justify “making” an enemy either. I accept their mistakes as much as I accept my own. I want them to evolve and grow just as much as I want it for myself. Where is the enemy in that?
It is of course very uncomfortable to approach someone that I have hurt and tell them how sorry I am. It’s just as uncomfortable (and scary) to approach someone who has hurt me and tell them that I don’t hold it against them.
But aside from those discomforts, it is nothing compared with the unbearable load of forever carrying anger and revenge for so called enemies. I won’t make them any longer. I won’t allow myself to be one either.
I’ve also had those feelings that “they deserve it”. But I am no judge, and only a fool would look at troublesome situations from their own perspective alone without considering the bigger picture.
Yes I’m capable of anger towards one who would harm me or my children. Yes I’m angry at those who lie about me. But they are not my enemy. They are fellow human beings who are trying to make it in this world the best they know how. They are just like me. If I have to stop or kill them to bring peace and safety, then so be it. But I will feel sorrow for everyone involved for doing so. We’re just fearful people.