My understanding of “pity” seems to be that to “pity” someone, you have to feel sorry for them for not being as good as you, which is arrogant in my view. So, not only would I not date someone out of pity, I generally don’t tend to pity people…because even if there is something obvious about them that makes me think, “whoa, sucks to be you,” everyone possesses within themselves something that makes them a unique and valuable person. Everyone, no matter how weird, ugly or otherwise outwardly undesirable has a few kindred spirits on this planet…6 billion people live here after all. I don’t think anyone is to be pitied, I’m OK with empathy, but not pity.