Serious? What does serious mean? Like ready to get married? Exclusive dating? What?
Are you serious? How can we tell?
There is no magic way to tell if someone else is serious about you, whatever serious means. Communication is a very uncertain business. It’s hard to know what someone else wants.
What kinds of decisions are you facing? How will your behavior change depending on whether you believe he’s serious or not? I don’t know if this is true, but it seems to me that a lot of times women ask this when they are thinking of having sex with someone, and they want to know if that is meaningful to the guy, or if he is just looking for another notch on his bedpost.
What other decisions are you facing? Do you need to turn down someone else who wants to date you? Do you need to defend this guy to your parents? Why is knowing whether he’s serious or not so important?
You gotta think about why you are asking the question. There’s something underneath there that you are worrying about—maybe it’s your reputation. Maybe it’s a fear of being taken advantage of. I don’t know. If you figure out what it is, and if you tell us, maybe we can help you figure out if he’s serious. Or maybe that’s all you need to know in order to figure out what to do next.