Well… since his part of the story is completely one sided… Let me share shall I? We met 6 years ago and have been friends since. I know him. He knows me. So we live together. The fact that we are soooo young doesn’t play into our choices of living. It was “we love each other so let’s live together.”
At the time when we first started seeing each other, I was in a long term, yet abusive relationship. Yes, I cheated. I am NOT proud of it. “Achilles” border line begged me to cheat on my last boyfriend with him… His reason was because he knew how bad the relationship was and how bad my ex treated me. But still… it took TWO to tango. So everyone saying “once a cheater always a cheater” you need to realize that everyone is different with a different life and story.
As for the “jealousy”, he HAS given me reasons to be “jealous”. Talking to girls inappropriately via phone, text, web, even sometimes when I was around. He is getting better at this, but still needs… work… There were a couple instances where his “lesbian” friend wanted to show him pictures of her and her gf doing sexual things and he had a weak point(as he called it) Also, he had virtually talked to one of his past… partners… about past intimacies and details on how they were going to rendezvous one day while he was at work. WOULD YOU TRUST SOMEONE WHO DID THAT RIGHT AWAY?? Again, EVERYONE has different occurrences in their lives and there are almost ALWAYS two sides to ever story.
Sorry, I do not agree with any of you who think its okay to let your significant other go out to whatever bar and drink with whoever is out there. People are sooo different nowadays. You cannot trust anyone out in the world today it seems. I wish so badly it was different, but it is not. I have had to cock block multiple girls even when i AM out with him. He is an overly friendly guy who only sees the clouded fake “good” in people and does not possess the ability to see who is just being friendly, and who is just looking for a competition. I do NOT think it is okay for your significant other to go out without you and get drunk with all of his SINGLE friends and DRIVE home. So yes, I have an issue with him going out without me. Sorry. I know that I’m not the only one out there!
Yes, there have been many hardships in our relationship that you people on this… Fluther don’t even know about, but I am a strong woman and strive for an amazing life with this guy. There was a point where we were so unbelievably happy and he almost proposed to me. I fear now, that day will never come, but I have to have faith. I dream of being with him. I do not even think of looking at other guys let alone talk to any of them. He is the world to me, and he is enough for me.
I love his family, our life together, and the path chosen for us by destiny. That “counciling” he mentioned was actually us sitting at our dining room table talking to his friend… He did put a lot of things into perspective for BOTH of us, but I still have to have enormous amounts of hope we will stand together strong through all our tough days and situations. EVERY healthy couple has issues and fights. It is nature’s way. Just like it is for pretty much all men to have wandering eyes, it is natural for two people to have conflicting opinions and situations. SO to conclude this book of a post I put up on this thing, I love him. I have loved him for 6 years. I will love him till the day I die. I am not the psycho he portrays to you people for attention on the internet. I have my reasons why there were trust issues. And please consider BOTH sides before you jump to say “oh break it off blablabla”