I’m very comfortable with my immediate family (parents, brothers and sisters) and always have things to say to them. I talk to them all on the phone regularly with the exception of my stepfather, who I don’t really relate to, but can hold a conversation with. My relatives on my mom’s side I also feel very comfortable with too, although I have less to say to them. On my dad’s side it’s a lot shakier (partially, I believe, because he died when I was ten). My extended family particularly, I have no idea what to say to. I went to a family reunion summer before last and it was extremely awkward. They had no idea for the most part who I was, which didn’t really help. I mostly hid out with the aunt, uncle and cousin that I know the best, which isn’t all that well. I’m almost surprised I was even invited.
It’s hard when you don’t relate well to your family. My advice is not to feel pressured into hanging out with the dudes just because you’re a dude. If you want to hang out with the girls, do it! Who cares? Don’t force yourself to spend a lot of time with people who you don’t relate to, especially if you have other family members who you get along with better.