Your perceptions are your reality. Others might not see your perceptions as an accurate reflection of reality. You can choose to be influenced by what others say, or not. If you worry about whether your perceptions of reality are consonant with others, then you will be less happy in life, I think. If you want more comfort with your life, you need to be committed to your perceptions.
I am not committed to my perceptions. I worry about what others think all the time. I try to change my perceptions to become more consonant with others’ perceptions all the time. I only can “speak my truth” if no one knows who I really am. That’s better than never being able to speak my truth, but it’s not as good as always being able to do that.
In matters of love, however, it is difficult to establish reality. You can pretty much know your reality. You can know what other people say about your reality. If you are self-sufficient, you will go with your reality. If not, you will doubt yourself. There is no knowing if either is more real. If I had a choice, I’d go with my own reality and ignore what others tell me.