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Should I give him more time?

I’ve been dating a guy for six months. He is wonderful, sweet, thoughtful, respectful. He is moving closer to me in a month, but for whatever reason, he got super freaked out about it. He has been burned in the past (fiance left him for another guy about two years ago…) and he holds back a lot, and it’s at the point where it bothers me. I finally got him to open up about it today, and he says he loves me, but for whatever reason, he doesn’t “need” me like he should, and he doesn’t understand why because he feels like I am the person he is going to spend the rest of his life with. He says he thinks it will pass, he is just freaked out about relationship stuff. But for me…I love this guy! I want to be with him, it crushes me to think he doesn’t want to let himself feel the same because he is scared. I also don’t want to waste my time with someone who holds back so much either because I have been in that position before. It really confuses me, and I guess I am wondering if I should give him the benefit of the doubt and see if he comes around or if I should move on. Any advice?

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