I am a controlling person. It is something I have struggled with for years, and I think it stems for a few things. First and foremost, I am a person who likes to know what is going on around me. When things happen unexpectadly, it really rattles me. I like to be able to know what is going on around me is good for me, as well as the other people in my life. I often feel like I am responsible for making sure that things get done correctly, whatever that may be. I can say I was controlling in my last relationship. It wasn’t a good thing, but I also think it also was because of the man I was with, and the fact that I was young. He had drinking problems, and had screwed his life up not only once, but twice. We had other problems too, and cumulatively it had is affect on me (we were together for six years), and therefore, I felt like it was my responsibility to make sure nothing bad happened again. It stems from a lack of trust in people and the world around you. I lacked trust that the person I was with wouldn’t do something wrong, and that is unfair pressure to put on anyone. Of course people aren’t perfect, and that is hard to accept when you are controlling. I ended that relationship, and I am in one in which actually has helped me learn that I can’t control everything. I feel the need to sometimes, and I can tell how my s/o responds to it, and i think because I am older now I can see how it can be destructive. Maturity helps with this problem as well. No, I don’t need therapy. It is something I realize for myself, and I am growing. I am learning that I can be confident, I can trust people around me, and despite what I wish, I can’t control the things around me. Life must happen the way it unfolds!