I am almost positive, more often than not, when I feel like I am being tested by others that I am very wrong. I’m just a very sensitive person. Maybe it is the same for you. Sadly, I do not think most people are sensitive or empathetic. Therefore they don’t really even listen to themselves speak for they are not capable of it, causing them to blurt out things and say whatever is on their tongues. Because the tongue is actually where the brain is located. Thinking processes go on inside of the mouth, not the head.
I like that you said you wait and listen for everything you can until interjecting your opinions to the topic, unless you know about it intimately. I have believed that everyone could be able to do this. Sadly, I have found that I was very wrong. It was wishful thinking on my part.
When I hear something I wonder about it and think for a while on it. Usually people do not know I am even interested because I have not spoken up and verbalized my attention directly to them. This always surprises me despite being a normal occurrence in my life, because I feel that a person does not show interest mostly by talking about it.
People love to talk, talk, talk and it will mostly come across as insolence because people are insensitive. Talking continuously makes people feel as though they are (or that their environment is) getting better because they are connecting in some way to another being and they feel that bond. Whether the topic is about nail polish or death and whether or not the speaker is rude does not matter. Conversing makes people feel accompanied.Talking excessively is the key to unlock loneliness’s manacles around the hands of human kind!