Hi all
well according to my own experience, I have always felt the urge to have something in my mouth since I was a kid, whether my thumbs, my blanket, my fingernails (until my 35years), my dolls, then I grew older and it was lollipops, chewing gum, pencils, then food and cigarettes, liquor (I am still smoking, tried to quit but increased my weight almost 20 pounds, liquor I am controlling it, I always struggle with diets) etc
When I started my sexual life, what I liked the most from the start always turned around kissing (mouth and body) and fellatio of my partner.
0n the other hand, due to an event occurred in my childhood (I was 8 when I was molested by a teenager girl in my building, we were friends and she helped me out with my homework ), due to conservative environment I have buried that event but I am now exploring my bisexuality, only had an experience as a grown up and often surprise myself almost drooling when I see a mum breastfeeding her baby anywhere… it is not lust, no hunger either…all I know is I have to run for a cigarette and or a chocolate bar…pathetic huh?
I am 40 yo and divorced, no kids… (Main reason for my divorce… my hubby kept complaining I was literally obsessed with sex and mostly with giving him oral sex or kissing and I preferred to end that relationship because it was leading nowhere)...I am clearly stuked in the oral phase… I am what can be called a FREAK…
In this redefinition of my personality I have asked my mum and grandma upfront and they both told me mum only tried once to breastfeed me but as it was far too difficult (mum was very spoiled), so she quit on trying and preferred giving me feeding bottle…
So yes I do believe in those stages, mind me I am a living proof (I hope that my answer is helpful),,, as I am far too scared to go through a psychoanalysis, this what I just said has been a result of a process of thoughts, deep reflections and research during the last 20 years… and wow, it is the first time I see a logic now…. thank you guys for reading…. it is said that to recognize a problem is also making the first step toward its solution, now I begin to understand why my relationships have failed, why so many character traits, it is not about blaming on my mum, but about assuming a new attitude toward life)..—-
if there’s any mother out there reading this, the best advice I can offer is please do not cease to breastfeed your child until doctor says so, not by whim…
Thanks again guys :)
Mme Butterfly
p.s. sorry for the typos