From my experience of on-off again relationships (currently off, 6 years in the making) – it is too individual and personal – advice merely reflects what the author thinks he would do, but rarely actually even does it himself.
In the real world @Sillyish – and welcome to fluther in case I forget – it’s way more complicated than that, right? Do what feels right, what feels best. Take your time, and maybe read a book by Hendrix (Google, Amazon him).
He says, in a nutshell (and he’s a brilliant therapist in my hp); you’ve met, or seen, or sifted through so many people in your lifetime (15–30-50 years, it’s a lot of people) – we don’t know exactly what made you stop looking and focus on one person, but you did. They are special.
You’ve hit a snag, you’ve run out of love, you are getting tired of things you found initially “cute?”
Well, life and love run deeper than that, and there’s nothing better out there – spend your time and energy fixing the problem, not running away from it.
Next one will be the same, 9 times out of 10. There’s a reason why it’s on again off again and not just – over.
Hendrix. Does a soul good. Try it.