@Simone_De_Beauvoir Ok, you caught me out ;-) Most guys have more self control than letting them have sex with any woman who is available. And, while there probably are men who really don’t even think about any woman other than the one they are in a monogamous relationship with, I’ll bet that if you could read the thoughts of the vast majority of men, you’d find them thinking about sex a surprising amount of the time. Inside, they are wishing they could fuck that hot girl over there.
Of course, I suppose I could be an exception to that generalization, but, given the number of times I’ve heard generalizations like this, I’m inclined to believe that a whole lot of men think this way.
Having an interior thought pattern does not mean that one has to act on those thoughts. I think most men are respectful of others, and most men have an idea of what it means to respect women. It may not be the same idea that women have about what constitutes respect, but I think it’s there in most men.
Like @galileogirl, I find it disheartening when women don’t mind being seen as sex objects. I find it even more disheartening to find out that some women don’t even recognize that sex objectification is a put-down.
I’ve known some women who value their hotness very highly and feel entitled to use it to get whatever they can out of men using their sex appeal. It seems like a cynical view to me, and I think it keeps them from finding decent relationships. It is a guaranteed way to meet only a certain kind of man—the kind who values only hotness in a woman.
But it takes all kinds, as the cliche goes.