I don’t have children, but always had assumed I would. My husband and I have had fertility problems, and have never taken the step to adopt. We are getting old to become parents, early 40’s, and I need to make a final decision.

I think I am pretty realistic about what having children would be like, the stress, the heartache, the joy. I figure it is more work than I could ever imagine. I love the idea of teaching them and watching them grow, and I think I might regret not having them when I am much older. But, my husband and I have enjoyed our marriage without them also. We travel, pursue his racing hobby, move cities easily, and enjoy each others company.

So, I am trying to decide to just let things be, or actually go ahead and adopt.