I know I’ve been planning my wedding since I was young… but my boyfriend and I talk about what our wedding will be like all the time. He has ideas about what he wants, but for the most part, he just wants to agree with what I want, or come to a compromise. He has definite feelings about the month, and where, and who, and he actually said he would prefer a different flower choice and he basically said no to what I wanted sprinkled by the flower girl on the aisle. And I respect his choices on that, because I know for the most part, he’s going to do what makes me happy as long as he doesn’t really dislike it.
I should note that we just know right now we want to get married, and we would if he wasn’t so far away, but I’m not engaged.
And interestingly enough, after I’ve planned that day my whole life, now that I’ve found him, I am entirely willing to go get married at the courthouse, just so long as I’m with him. I actually suggested we elope while he’s here in December, But he said he knows that somewhere in my heart, there would be that tiny little voice wishing I’d had the traditional wedding I’ve always dreamed about.
So, at least in my case, the wedding won’t be just about me.