I had a very contentious divorce six years ago in which I lost custody. My ex returned home to our country with our children. My letters were thrown away and my phone calls rejected by the other parent. When my children turned 12 and did not legally have to be in after school care, my son contacted me on the internet. We have been talking ever since, and shortly after that I sued for access and have been back to visit them three times. They have been told very, very horrible things about me – I’ve discussed all this with my son and he has never seemed distant to me, but my visits with my daughter were very awkward and she seems a stranger. About three months ago she started telling me how unhappy she is , she hates the private school that I pay for, her life at home. I told her to just come back and live with me and to my surprise she wants to, and now is very persistent in coming as soon as possible. I am arranging all this and and I do want her here very much, but I am panicked! I have re-married, she has met my husband but we will be strangers to her. I feel like I don’t know her at all. How can I prepare?