There are lots of qualities a person might desire in another person, but the more qualifications you add to your list, the harder it will be to find that special someone. Because of this, I try to distill all of my desires into several “must-have” qualities:
- Imaginative: What I mean by this is someone who can accept sci-fi and fantasy. I hate people who see a sci-fi movie and aren’t interested because it isn’t “real.” But this also refers to someone interested in art and making things. This quality goes together with…
– Intelligent: Doesn’t need help writing essays, reads books for fun and can think critically about philosophy, morals, politics, finances, etc
– Healthy: At my age (nearing 30), I don’t think I can “change” someone into a relatively healthy-eater or a person that exercises at least a couple of times a week
– Hygienic: This just means you keep your teeth and smelly parts clean, change your underwear everyday and your sheets more than twice a year.
– Empathetic: This includes not having a big ego. I find that I don’t get along well with people who only see their own problems and can’t understand other people’s problems. Plus, I think this quality makes you good with children.
I think the reason I’m hung up on these qualities is because concerning the first two, I don’t know many people like that but really want to. I hate being the smartest guy in the room who is always teaching stuff to other people. If my future wife was smarter than me, I would accept it as a blessing. For the most part, people are hygienic and healthy (less so for the latter), but when they are missing, I notice it immediately. Someone missing those qualities would get into clashes with my lifestyle all the time.
There are other minor qualities that would be nice, but I think I can deal with a person not having them. After all, partnerships are about compromise.