@RedPowerLady thanks again, and no apology needed. I knew what you meant.
As far as the after the fact scenario goes for me, those thoughts/feelings took about a week to qwell. Lucky for him and me, they jailed him the following day.
I whole heartedly agree with @hungryhungryhortence when she says: you don’t know what you’re capable of until you’re in a situation and then you learn some things, maybe surprise yourself.
In another scenario, my ex and I were property managers, and a drunken tenant came late one night to pay his rent. To make a long story short, he beat up my ex badly when he was asked to leave our office. When I walked out to find him laying unconcious on the ground and the moron standing over him, I snapped. I went instantly into ‘protection mode’, and started punching the guy. I hit him several times until he went down, then ran in to call the police. They said we shouldn’t press charges against him because he could also press charges against me. so we evicted him instead.
If someone would have told me I would duke it out with a guy that size, or any guy for that matter, I would have told them they were nuts. But you really don’t know what you are capable of until you are actually in the situation
I have to add here, that what I did was very stupid, and I am lucky he didn’t decide to hit me back. If he had, I would have been laying in a pool of blood just like my husband was.