Not to sound too cliched, but it basically means he’s just not that into you. If he were he would want to spend as much time hanging out with you as you would permit NOT the reverse. There is absolutely nothing the matter with you and trying to analyze him can be crazy making for you.
If the two of you are involved sexually, it means that is pretty much his motivation for being with you at all.
As Gail said, just move on and find the right one for you. It’s not this guy and you can’t change him.
I remember an interview I saw with the guy who wrote the book about he’s just not that into you. He was describing his own dating experiences from his younger pre-marriage days. He dated quite a few women and was good friends with them and such.
But when he met his future wife it was totally different. He took great care to make himself available to her and would re-arrange any parts of his schedule which would interfere with the time they had together. He didn’t want to lose her to ant other guy so he treated their relationship with great care. He wanted to be certain that there was no doubt in her mind about how important she was to him. He wanted to be with her as much as possible and however much time she would allow him.
He wrote the book primarily to let women know that they shouldn’t be wasting their energy on guys who just didn’t feel the same way about them.
His basic premise was that every woman deserves to be with a guy who worships the ground they walk on instead of settling for leftover crumbs from a guy just playing the field and looking for free sex.
Each of the women in the audience described their various experiences and were asking the same basic question about how can you KNOW if he’s really into you and the right one.
His answer was simple. You can tell by his actions. Not his words (or excuses) but his actions. You won’t have to be chasing him cuz he will be the one in pursuit of you and as much of your time and attention as you’re willing to grant him. It will be obvious. If it’s not, just move on.
I think he was being totally honest about what men are really all about and I think his advice was spot on. Don’t waste your energy on a guy who is just not that in to you. It prevents you from being available to find the one who is. And that’s what you deserve in life.