@pdworkin really nailed it! I once had a ‘wife’, a man who stayed home, took care of the cleaning, cooking, laundry, etc. It was wonderful if he hadn’t also been a handful in other ways. I liked coming home and knowing things there were ‘handled’ to where the two of us could get on with just being together and relaxing. I made efforts to show my appreciation because I had been a wife before and knew how much work it was to run a household much less do it well and to my partner’s satisfaction and particular quirks.