Where do you draw the line for serious? Obviously if they are doing drugs or suicidal it is serious.
Here is an example, you all can give me your opinion if you would tell. My step-niece friended me on facebook, my neice would not. About 6 months ago I saw my step-niece post my sis and I got tats today. When I saw it, I assume that “sis” is my neice. I was pretty sure her mother would never permit this, and felt a little better that if she did it, the tatoo would be in an esily hidden place. But, as my husband later pointed out it might be in a “sexual” place since they are in FL half naked all of the time, but that is another thing altogether. So, of course I am not 100% sure of anything, and had decided to only say something to her mother if it was something “serious” this way I can continue to see some of what is going on in case she ever did do something to endanger herself.
I was with her mother a couple of weeks ago and she brought up that her daughter wanted a tattoo, and even taunted that her step-sister could sign for her. I asked, “so do you think she has one?” And her mom replied, “I would kill her.” I did not tell what I had seen on facebook. What I have said in the past to her, the mother, is I think she should be on facebook with her kids (her son posts horrible things on his page, probably typical teenager talk, but I don’t think he should put it out there in cyberspace). The mom, by the way, is my husband’s sister, and at times we don’t get along well, but I love her children, and her for that matter, I just wish she was not such a bitch sometimes…but I digress.
In this example my neice did not confide in me, so it is not exactly what I asked in the original question, but I’m curious to know what everyone thinks.