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Why can't I reach an orgasm during intercourse?

Asked by DOMINO (146points) October 28th, 2009
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Me, and my boy friend have been trying for awhile,but I can’t seem to come. I think It’s mabey from masturbating with a vibrational clit device for to long,could that be it for me?

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ItalianPrincess1217's avatar

I find that any kind of vibrator, if used for an extended period of time, does tend to desensitize your genitals.

trailsillustrated's avatar

try smoking some weed, before sex, with a beer, or one coctail.

mammal's avatar

Can you get yourself off manually? If so find a novel position and give it a whirl.

holden's avatar

Have you been able to climax during sex before, or are you new to sex and never had a vaginal orgasm? If the latter is true, you may just need some more practice with your boyfriend to find what works for you.

HGl3ee's avatar

Weed before sex (doesn’t have to be a lot) will help, also using that same toy during sex works too. I use a vibrator when I’m flying solo and had a hard time with my SO, when we started using the vibrator during it was very easy for me to achieve climax. And he loves it because it feels good on him too ;)

And Positions, positions, positions!!! Switch it up, try new things and have fun!! – LB

CMaz's avatar

You mean cum. You already made it to the bed.

Ok, will let you in on my secret weapon…

Spread your legs. Expose your clit. Have him slap it hard with his chubby.
He needs to be aggressive and you both need to get into it. Talk dirty, that always helps.

You might even squirt.

Good luck!

DOMINO's avatar

Tryed that,it’s a good idea though. but I’ll try it again, thanks.

SpatzieLover's avatar

Not all women can orgasm during intercourse without stimulation. You may be one of them.

DOMINO's avatar

Na, I’v never cum during sex ever. To Holden-

SpatzieLover's avatar

@DOMINO If it concerns you you could visit a sex therapist. Otherwise, just ask for him to stimulate you manually before, during, or after sex, or if you’re lucky all of the above.

CMaz's avatar

“Not all women can orgasm during intercourse”

“I’ve never cum during sex ever”

If I had a dollar for every time I proved that wrong.

DOMINO's avatar

I’m sorta emberassed to ask him to use somthing for me. I mean it’s not like he wouldn’t but how do i bring it up? To SpatzieLover-

HGl3ee's avatar

@DOMINO to your question to @SpatzieLover, do you two watch any porn together? – LB

DOMINO's avatar

Nope.

SpatzieLover's avatar

@DOMINO My man likes to please me. I’m certain yours does to. Does he tell you how he likes it? Reciprocate. It’s easy. “Over to the left a bit dear…Ahhhhh…That’s better!”

HGl3ee's avatar

@DOMINO communication is a big part to a successful relationship in the bedroom. In the beginning it’s not the easiest thing to to but once you find the courage it will be glorious! My Mum always told me that courage is a fickle feeling, you always gain it after the fact; but once it has been gained it sticks with you <3 Good Luck! – LB

jbfletcherfan's avatar

It’s true that a lot of women don’t cum through vaginal sex. There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s not written in stone that you have to. As long as you both get off & enjoy it together, who cares how you do it? Just lay back, relax & go with it.

rangerr's avatar

Aren’t you like 13? Why are you having sex anyway?

SpatzieLover's avatar

@rangerr Great CATCH! Look at her profile

rangerr's avatar

I feel like mods must have the power to ban users.
Use the powerrrrr.

HGl3ee's avatar

Her age is stated in her profile?

SpatzieLover's avatar

@ElleBee read through all posts (and typos) if this isn’t a teen troll I’ll eat this DB after I print it out

ItalianPrincess1217's avatar

Oh man, I think I’ve just given sex advice to a teen who shouldn’t even be having sex!! How wrong!

SpatzieLover's avatar

@ItalianPrincess1217 I feel like a bad mom! But, she/he/it could be lying about actually having sex…I hope!

ItalianPrincess1217's avatar

@SpatzieLover I know, right?! I really do feel like a bad person. And kind of…dirty. Yuck.

HGl3ee's avatar

Well f**k.. If only your mother was on here! I feel very, well, violated… gross… – LB

holden's avatar

oh shit! Hold your fire, guys!

jbfletcherfan's avatar

Oh, yeah, here we go again. Another teeny-bopper sex question. BTW, Domino, it’s ETC. Not ECT.

mclaugh's avatar

Some women just can’t orgasm without clitoral stimulation, in other words they can’t have a vaginal orgasm. Maybe you just need to play down there with your or his hands while you’re having sex.

proXXi's avatar

TRoll..

If not, find a more skilled lover.

mammal's avatar

Why is she a troll? I don’t understand seems like a misnomer for an attention hound or such like.

SpatzieLover's avatar

@mammal Did you read all of her answers on here?

Webzilla's avatar

A lot of women don’t orgasm through sex. It is sadly a fact. If you get a lot of clitoral stimulation from a vibrator you should try going on top and finding a rhythm that will work for you. If you really, really want to orgasm through penetration then you should get him to do you from behind and use the vibrator on your clitoris.

wasabi_rave's avatar

Some women are just less sensitive than others (unfortunately). I had/have the same problem… I could probably count the number of times in the past 8 years that i’ve actually orgasmed during intercourse. And usually the orgasm sucks. D: I didn’t even realize I was done most of the time because I had single half orgasms instead of the multiple ones I was used to doing it manually.

Talking to your boyfriend about it can be really awkward, I know. But in the end it can make a world of a difference… just do it! He’s your bf, you should be able to talk to him about anything. Just do it in a way that doesn’t make him think that its HIS fault that you can’t orgasm during sex. If you’re not shy about it, use toys/vibrators on yourself during foreplay, and ask him to use it on you. Just don’t expect him to be a total pro at it. He probably wont be very sure of himself, and you’ll have to walk him through it.
(Wow, this post is WAY to long!!! My bad!)

Summary: Foreplay! Don’t be shy! Foreplay! Use toys! Oh yeah, and don’t forget about the FOREPLAY. haha

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