I’m still dealing with mine. I thought I had gotten past most of the trauma, then I had a child. Wow! Nope, there are still open wounds I need to heal and work through. I have the unfortunate/fortunate situation of owning my home with my mom. it’s great & awful all at the same time In her relationship with our son, she has stirred some memories I still need ot work through.
I wouldn’t change a thing about my childhood. As @Judi stated above, they’ve made me who I am, how I think, and have served as a reminder for me to remain present for my husband and child.