Immediate catch my attention: dorky cute, some body hair, glasses, sense of humor similar to mine, Nerdy-cool
Long term turn on’s: having ambitions, being a “doer”, not being a leech, knowing when to be respectful and knowing when to correct people, being able to take charge (in life and bedroom), being an old-school romantic, being tolerant of other beliefs (as long as the other person isn’t being an ass about it), and a nice ass always helps :D
Deal breaker: Becoming a leech, becoming suicidal, abusive physical or emotional, drug addiction, smoking (sorry but I really can’t handle the smoke), bad moral decision making (those moments where you go “you really did what?!”), not taking care of yourself (don’t mind overweight but mind bad hygiene, and letting yourself get to 400 lbs, etc etc), not reaching my maturity level