Can you describe a time when you were waiting?
June of 2008.
Who were you waiting for?
Partner. We’d not been able to get together for near two years so when we did finally, it was a huge ball of adrenaline, fulfillment and acceleration to build our future, one whose details we shared and saw possible in each other, the best match either of us had imagined and one we were anxious to get friends on board with too.
Why were you waiting?
We’d gone across country for him to start a business with an old associate and it fell through so he put me on a plane home until he could figure out where he’d be, what he’d be doing and then send for me.
What happened in the end?
He couldn’t afford to drag me from state to state with him and I couldn’t afford to go state to state with him because I support a mortgage and constant moving would have jeopardized that. He basically told he needed to handle his chaos on his own and that maybe in the future “we’d be in a better place”, that he did truly love me though.
What did you learn from the experience?
Love isn’t enough sometimes. For some people love isn’t what it is to the other person and we all differ on what we’re willing to gamble, risk or pledge for love. I’ve always believed there is more than one love for all of us, he put it to the test and set me free to be that love for someone else. I learned I was more selfish than reasonable. I learned some people are willing to sacrifice more than others in order to do the least amount of harm as they make their way. He put me to the test of walking my talk, showed me he could walk his. I respect him for that much. I would have lost everything I have if he’d kept me with him.