What happens when a couple goes too long without talking to each other about the stuff really important to them is they become bitter and snag up on each at every missed nuance, it feels like getting sick to your stomach to see what you once upon a time wanted most becoming nothing but going round and round in irritation. An SO of mine used to follow me around the house saying, “come sit down and talk to me, let’s talk like other people, let’s pretend we’re a normal couple…” by that time I was angry at him for so many missed things, I didn’t want them from him anymore because they’d never mean the same to me as if he’d done them when we were first together. I used to cry because I couldn’t get the feeling back for him, I had love but not romance and it turned him vicious because he thought I was rejecting him in every way as though he was unattractive, repulsive, etc. when it really was an accumulation of bitterness in me.