I think in that case, want is better than need. Neediness is next to codependency, and that’s not a good place to be in psychologically. You don’t want to have to need a particular someone so much that your emotional health is in jeopardy, because particular people are going to come and go, and you’ll have to know how to carry on and be happy anyway when those people do go, be it because they leave or they die.
You ever know of people whose partners die and they just can’t carry on? Isn’t that sad? Would their partner have wanted them to be depressed and sad and yearning for the lost one for the rest of their lives? If you broke up with someone, would you want that person to have emotionally needed you so much that they’re a wreck without you? Yeah, me neither.
Want. Not need.