So many guys seem to prefer gaming to real life interaction. I wonder why that is?
I have the opposite problem. My wife doesn’t like to go out with our friends very much. She doesn’t like parties. She only like situations like dinner parties where there are maybe as many as six other people.
I don’t like going out without her—I don’t enjoy answering the inevitable questions about where she is or how she is, and the underlying suspicion that something is wrong between us. I mean, there is or has been something wrong, but I don’t like it being so obvious.
She prefers to have people over at our house, but even so, she is always counting and recounting and trying to figure out how many we have room for. She spends hours worrying about making the house look perfect, as if we were going to be inspected by some five star general. I DON’T FUCKING CARE!!! Whoever comes over is fine. We’ll figure out a way to fit them. It doesn’t matter how many place settings there are or whether the house is in clean enough shape to make memory chips. People aren’t there for a chair; they’re coming for the company.
Anyway, I gave up after a while. Stopped going out. Stopped having people over. We had kids, anyway, so it was even too much for me doing the cooking and all.
Well, I guess my point is that you deal with it any way you can. You can’t make him go out. You could go into counseling and express how important this is to you and see if you could negotiate some deal—maybe he goes out a couple of times a month. But you want him there to have fun, not to be sullen, right? Although you do say he enjoys himself when he is free of the computer.
As always with couples, the issue is communication. You’ve got to be able to communicate about this, and reach an agreement that works for both of you. If you can’t talk about it, then you’ve got deeper problems.