I have shared a house with people for over ten years now, though never as many as you describe.
My main advice is this: You will be irritated by people. People will be annoyed by you. You will need to learn to identify when you are irritated, and then separate the irritations to two separate cases: 1) where you can just teach yourself to accept the whatever it is that irritates you, and go along, and 2) where trying to “accept” and “tolerate” actually just builds more and more resentment in you. It is crucial that you do not bitch to others about every little thing, while still talking to them about those small things that if left alone will grow into major sources of anger. This is not easy and everyone will make a lot of really stupid mistakes into both directions. Hopefully since a lot of you have lived with others before the majority already realizes this.
What I have found in the end the best way to deal with stuff is that everyone is responsible for their own things (meals, laundry, whatever), but they are free to share as much as they like. If you have few enough people, an informal system of “I was planning to make curry tomorrow, who all will be here to eat?” will be enough to co-ordinate. I have no experience from co-ordinating cooking with larger numbers of people. Accept that such sharing is a gift, not a trade.
As to chores, there is basically two options: have a system™ where everyone is expected to do certain things, and have some people bitch about how other people do not do their share or do it wrong, or have no system other than “he who is bothered about it will fix/clean/mend it” and tolerate the fact that occasionally everyone is bothered but no one can be bothered. (We do the latter now and it does work for us, while no System™ ever really did, but that might be just my personality.)
Respect for space vs creating a community is mostly about realizing that they get to decide when they want their space and when they want the community. You might have an idealized pictures of this in your head, but that’s too bad. “Giving them space” is about giving it to them when they want it, even if “the community” thinks now is the time for some communal work.
Oh boy, writing this brought back ever so many memories. >_<