I don’t understand this concept of ‘leagues’. An ex-bf of mine dumped me after 6 months because of my weight… someone made a comment to him after seeing a photo of me. Prior to that, he hadn’t had a problem with it.
At that point, I had lost a few pounds since we had first met, and was working on lifestlye changes to improve my fitness and reduce risks for future health problems. Losing weight is a bonus of that.
He was ashamed for how he felt, and we got back together. I lost a bit more weight, and he once commented, “once you lose weight, you’ll be way out of my league.” A couple months later, he dumped me again, citing the reason that he was no longer attracted to me—yet admitting that I was even more attractive than I was when he first became attracted to me.
What does it all mean? How come being overweight made me not good enough; but if I get to average size I will be too good? I am the same person now that I was the day we met. Just because my appearance might be easier on the eyes than it was back them, I am still the same me.
Aren’t we all humans, with strengths and weaknesses? Why do we feel the need to judge or classify one another? As someone who has been shy and insecure – especially about my appearance – for most of my life, I do understand questioning what my beloved could possibly see in me; but logically speaking, we are all worthy of love.