in our marriage I was always told (by my Grandmother) to “never let the sun set on an argument” so we never have, if something is bothering me then I tell hubby about it. Whether its about him or something at work or anything else and between us we sort it out, and even if we can’t he makes me feel better. Of course if its him who’s done something to bug me then I get to get it off my chest and more often that not he hasn’t meant whatever it is in the way I’ve picked it up. Either way, it gets resolved.
I’ve had things in the past I haven’t mentioned to people, because I’ve always thought maybe I’d be being rude. I had a friend who used to steal things from our house and I never told her off or even pulled her up for it, but that was because I always felt sorry for her. She lives quite a harsh life and even though I was always giving her things, clothes even money, i just couldn’t tell her I knew about what she did. It hurt me and still does if I’m honest and maybe I’d have felt better if I had told her off. Not sure.
Anyway, normally I would say not to stew over things it leads to stress and can make you ill. It’s just not always a good thing to have a row over things either, but I’ve learnt from experience that if you allow people to take liberties and get away with it they just tend to do it even more, thinking that you don’t mind. Most of life’s problems could probubly be avoided with better communication.
hugs all xx