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What is the best way to tell a friend you don't want to be their friend anymore?

Asked by purplerox (54points) December 15th, 2009
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This girl in my class was my best friend but now shes acting all mean and a total jerk to me I really don’t like it and I don’t want her doing it anymore so I’m done with her and no longer want to be her friend.

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Parrappa's avatar

“I don’t wan’t to be your friend anymore”

Ghost_in_the_system's avatar

Make her a mix tape with “please Release Me” as done by Def Leppard and “Don’t Go Away Mad” by Motley Crue playing in a loop.

sevenfourteen's avatar

“I don’t appreciate the way you’ve been acting towards me. I think it’s best if we go our seperate ways now”

just curiosity, how old are you?

garster's avatar

Tell him/her that your needs and theirs are dfifferent. Tell them about how you and him/her don’t see things the same and have different values or goals or whatever. Be honest yet caring. q:)

HighShaman's avatar

Just totally ignor her .. and when she goes to talk to you; just come out and tell her that you don’t want to be her friend….

IF she ask why; Tell her !

gradyjones's avatar

If you really don’t want to be friends anymore, you don’t have to say a thing. Just quit everything about her and she will know.

If you would prefer that she treat you with respect so that you can resume your friendship, talk to her honestly and tell her how you feel.

Millenium_TheMysteriousM's avatar

Sounds to me like SHE’S not wanting to be YOUR “friend” any more! So. . . . . . .I’d probably just not say anything; lest you find out it’s HER wanting to stop the friendship! Otherwise, if your silence elicits a query from HER as to “why” you’re not talking to her any more, be honest, direct, and to the “point” as to ‘WHY’ you no longer want to be friends. It “clears the air” and leaves no room for ‘DOUBT’! And then you can BOTH be on your merry ways!

littleGirlLost's avatar

Be straight, but fair. Say that your ideals are different and that its hard to to find any common ground anymore with them. You can’t service their needs as a friend on that basis. Very hard thing to do, it happens though, I had to lose a friend this year about April 09, as hard as it was, it was the right decision the friendship had become a one way path. My friend being me, me, me, in her attitude, very self absorbed (female) very hard after 20 years very, very hard to do.

garster's avatar

@littleGirlLost at first glance i thought that your friend was you. And you let yourself go.( Like being reborn again :) After reading it over and over, i got it. I had a best frriend of over 20 years that i let go becausin a time of nedd (seems like I have alot of those) he abandaoned me. Live and learn. q:)

_Jade_'s avatar

The best way is to be straightforward and honest without being hurtful. A simple explanation of why you think it best that you part company should be enough.

broncosgirl's avatar

As my mom would say, you need to “trim your garden”. Some friends stay, and some are “trimmed” away. This will happen many times in your life. It’s best to just be kind, someday you might be friends again. But just don’t invest your time in that person anymore, I think she is doing the same thing.

littleGirlLost's avatar

@ garster her intentions were not honourable & secondly I would have been paying her debts off with her intention not to pay back, she had done this to her mother as well for a considerably higher sum. I would have loaned her desired amount without that knowledge.
Would you expect me as a single girl to do that? She lives a not so modest life unfortunately I do in respect of my income etc – I live by what I earn and very rarely exceed that figure. She incidently wanted to hide debt on a joint mortgage application – not the best way to start a relationship – I would say anyway! Well I couldnt do that anyway.

garster's avatar

@littleGirlLost . It really didn’t sound like a friend at all. Sorry to hear that, but it made me smile when i thought you were arguing with yourself. q:)

littleGirlLost's avatar

@ I am what I am no dual personalities needed, she wasnt like that for a long time she changed :) thanks for trying to evaluate a me some nut case on Fluther really nice – not

Supacase's avatar

@littleGirlLost Are you upset with @garster?? I don’t think he or she was trying to be mean and I understand the initial confusion. I think quotation marks around “me me me” would have solved the problem. :)

littleGirlLost's avatar

@ Supacase & Gaster, Totally understood your grammar explanation really does warrant a lot and I would have totally got my point over in explanation so much better. Apologies to Garster for reading you wrong. Sometimes regardless of the person or their actions you miss talking about the old times,banter and relaxed conversation that you have with someone who knows you virtually inside out etc., Also to see your friend change can hurt a lot. I reckon that totally evaluates the situation from my me anyway thanks all!

garster's avatar

@littleGirlLost I am so sorry, but I meant no harm. I identified with me because I always argue with myself and that made me smile.

littleGirlLost's avatar

No worries Garster, no worries perhaps its the time of year making me a little sad, maybe I miss her for the old her and the friendship we had – Yes I do! 1989 was my favourite year & perhaps I feel very old now!

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

Yer,fired,Varmint!in the voice of Yosemite Sam….or not say anything at all,let it go because it sounds like she’s made her mind up too.there are alot nicer people out there to be friends with ;)

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justin101's avatar

I would CRUSH their heart but then say it`s ok and i will buy you something to make you feel better!!!!!

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