Lurve is a many-splendored thing, but it is not something that it is cool to bitch about. People give it out as they see fit to give it out. Some of us choose to save it for really good answers, and others shoot their wad, so to speak, for any answer at all.
In any case, it’s not about the lurve or the awards. It’s about building a community and forming relationships with people you appreciate. There are people here who change their fluther identities when they reach a certain level of lurve—because they want to make it clear that lurve is not of interest to them.
We have a different culture from AB, apparently. We take great care to preserve civility and sensibility. We don’t want nonsense here. We don’t want questions where you can’t really tell what the questioner is after. We don’t want random silly questions, or questions that are there just for the sake of being there. We don’t want ambiguous and poorly worded questions, even if they are par for the course. No. That’s Michael Feldman. But hey, no one said you can’t borrow a good line when it fits the situation.
I tend to put a great deal of thought (ok, maybe not a great deal, but some) into my questions. Sometimes I see them as a service to the community when it seems like we are getting a lot of the same old questions. I do this because I think we would all rather have an interesting discussion or learn a variety of new things about our fellow jellies than to sit around playing Tiddly Winks with words.
When I ask a question, I often just let it go, just to see what people have to say. I figure that if I say something, it’s likely to stop things. I’ll give out lurve for answers that I think are particularly apt. But I’m not expecting people to be answering for lurve. I want them to answer because they are interested. For me, lurve is irrelevant silliness. I’ve been on websites where people got serious about points, and they were just awful! I will not stand by idly if people try to turn this place into something like Askville! [SHUDDER]